You’re sitting in a team meeting when your manager announces a new project. 

Instantly, a nervous voice in your head says, “Don’t volunteer—you’ll mess it up.” 

You want to step forward, but your mind fills with doubts: 

“You’re not the best at this. Remember last time? What if you embarrass yourself?” 

So, you keep quiet, even though you know you could contribute. 

Afterward, you wonder—Why do I always hold back, even when I want to speak up?

Unmasking Part X—The Saboteur Within

In the Chapter 2 of my book MindShifting: Stop Your Brain from Sabotaging Your Happiness and Success (and in last week’s blog post),  we explored how stories, scripts, and habits automate much of our behavior, making life easier—but sometimes keeping us stuck. 

Chapter 3 of the book then dives into the work of Phil Stutz and Shirzad Chamine, who both shine a light on the Saboteur voices in our heads.

Part X (Stutz’s term) is that running commentary in your brain that constantly criticizes, doubts, and discourages you. It convinces you to stick to the status quo, tells you “don’t bother,” and even attacks you when you try to make a change.

Chamine calls this your “Saboteurs,” with the chief among them being the Judge:

• Badgering you for past mistakes
  
• Comparing you to others
  
• Focusing on what’s wrong with you, others, or the world
  
• Convincing you that the outcome will always be bad
  

Saboteurs hijack the limbic system’s threat detection to spin fear-based stories that keep us stuck. These “stories” and “scripts” can be so ingrained that we rarely question them. But if you’re willing to challenge them, you can access all your abilities for critical and creative thinking, empathy, emotional regulation, and exploration.

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A Real Story: Roberta’s Breakthrough

Roberta, a participant in one of my classes, always felt it was her job to handle all the housework—even though both she and her husband worked outside the home. The “gender roles” story was so deeply embedded that she didn’t question it; she simply resented it in silence.

But as she learned about scripts, and stories, Roberta began to recognize that this voice holding her back wasn’t reality—it was just her Saboteurs, repeating an old story. She realized she had options:

1. Keep doing everything herself
   
2. Refuse to do the chores
   
3. Tell her husband she wouldn’t do it anymore
   
4. Start a real conversation about roles and expectations
   

Of course, her Part X resisted any change, attacking her for even considering something different. Here is how her internal dialogue went:

But Roberta knew this was just her Part X. These were its lies; this wasn’t her and this wasn’t the truth.

Roberta made up her mind to try. She initiated a discussion with her husband—and, to her surprise, he was open to rethinking their household roles. 

Together, they built a new story: teamwork, not tradition.

She reported later that letting go of the old story—and sharing the responsibilities—felt freeing in a way she hadn’t imagined.

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Why It Works (and Why It’s Hard)

These Saboteur stories, left unchecked, can run our lives. And they’re powerful because they’re efficient—using as little conscious effort as possible to keep you doing what you’ve always done.

• Scripts are automatic routines (“I always say yes”; “I always do the chores”).
  
• Stories are the mental frameworks that justify these actions (“That’s just how it is”; “People will think less of me if I don’t”).
  

Sometimes we act first, then make up a story to justify our actions. Other times, we’re so attached to a story that it triggers automatic behavior.

But as soon as you notice the story, you can question it—and begin to write a new one.

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Revisiting That ‘Scary’ Meeting

Imagine taking a slow breath, asking yourself, “Is it really true that I’ll mess this up?” or “What would happen if I tried?” Maybe, this time, you choose to speak up, even if it’s just to share one idea or volunteer for a small task.

Let’s go back to that moment in the meeting. What if, instead of just obeying that fearful inner voice, you paused, noticed the Saboteur at work, and questioned the story it was telling you? What if you reminded yourself that those doubts aren’t facts—they’re just old scripts designed to keep you “safe”?

That one act can be a turning point. Each time you challenge the Saboteur’s narrative, it loses its grip. Over time, confidence grows, your contributions get noticed, and you open the door to opportunities and growth you might have missed.

A simple shift—from following the inner critic to questioning it—can change the entire trajectory of your work, your relationships, and how you see yourself.

That’s what Roberta did, and it changed everything. It’s not always easy, but recognizing your Part X is the first step to breaking its hold.

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This Is Just One Piece of Chapter 3

The rest of Chapter 3 dives into:

• How to spot the Saboteur and Judge voices in your own head
  
• Practical strategies for quieting your inner critic
  
• Techniques for breaking free from limiting stories and scripts
  
• Ways to start rewriting your mental “rules” so you can grow, act, and connect more freely
  

If you’ve ever felt trapped by your own self-talk, Chapter 3 will give you the insights and tools you need to quiet the critic and open the door to change.

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Ready to go further?
Dive into Chapter 3 for a toolkit on silencing your Saboteurs and building new, empowering stories.

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